Thursday, 19 January 2017
My Happiness For Today
Nothing much to write today, except that, thank you so much my Lord, for the simple, humble things in my life. They are my worldly possessions and I am forever grateful that they bring me contentment despite the fact that I am neither rich nor clever.
Food For Thought At The Beginning Of 2017
The following are some newspaper articles which I find very interesting. Just couldn't help myself uploading them onto this blog.
Why I Support Maryam Lee’s Non-Fasting Protest
By Farouk A.Peru
Published: July 1, 2016 07:35 AM GMT+8
See more at: http://m.themalaymailonline.com/opinion/farouk-a.-peru/article/why-i-support-maryam-lees-non-fasting-protest#sthash.JN0d4q7Z.dpuf
JULY 1 ― It has been a more dismal week than usual for Malaysian Islam. There was an exhibition in Kedah where Muslims were invited to kiss the holy footprint of Prophet Muhammad. Unusually and commendably, the Islamic Department of Kedah actually warned against it although strangely, they did not dispatch any enforcers to stop this obviously unIslamic practice. Perhaps the enforcers were busy monitoring Muslims who were sneakily not fasting. Or perhaps they are too afraid of losing Muslim support?
Before I explain why I support Maryam Lee’s protest, I would just like to say that I have a deep admiration for Muslim women who unflinchingly stand against Islamofascism. Amina Wadud Muhsin, the famous female Imamah, withstood many death threats and harassment; she never wavered from her stand. Our very own Sisters in Islam has been facing up to the Islamic Patriarchal Elite for more than three decades. And now we have a new generation of Muslim feminists, one of whom is Maryam Lee.
The first thing we should note is that Maryam Lee did not break Islamic law. In Traditional Islam, women are actually forbidden (i.e. it is haram for them) to pray and fast during menstruation. According to Maryam, it is also not a crime for a Muslim woman to eat and drink during Ramadan either. What does exist, however, is an unspoken rule. This is the intangible policy which manifested as a moral obstruction to Maryam’s act.
So what really happened? According to Maryam, she was making a conscious act of protest. During her “time of the month”, she went to a restaurant in and ordered some food. The manager, who was rude to her from the start, served her lunch but literally tossed the plate of food on her table. He then asked if she was Malay (a strong indicator of racial-religious signals here, take note) and then proceeded to berate her. Her non-Muslim friend was told to shut up and not get involved. His excuse was, he could get raided by the authorities for serving a Muslim during Ramadan!
As if that was not enough, a total stranger came up to Maryam and proceeded to berate her as well. His excuse was, her act would tarnish the image of Islam in front of the general public! How exactly is not easily deduced by logic. Would they be tempted less by a Muslim woman who ate and drank than if a non-Muslim did so? Also, would the image of Islam be actually improved if we can show how magnanimous we are?
Surprisingly, much of the social media response to this report was to focus on Maryam’s so-called “provocation.” Apparently, Maryam should not have provoked the Muslims by eating while they were fasting. We should first ask the question, did she loudly shout the shahada (Muslim profession of faith) before eating? Of course not! Her only “tell” was that she was wearing the headscarf. The headscarf is not the sole domain of the conservative Muslims.
Secondly, is she entitled to consume during Ramadan? God himself entitles her to do so although God’s self-proclaimed agents do not. Not once but twice in the Quran when fasting is mentioned (Chapter 2, Verses 183-185), for those who are indisposed, flexibility is afforded to them. Not just for the indisposed but for those who are travelling as well.
Even Islamic Tradition, which is usually at odds with the Quran, supports the notion that if one is hard pressed, one may break his fast. This can happen with diabetics or with those with low blood pressure who need water to prevent them from fainting. So it is actually OK with God Himself. Who is it not OK with?
The unsurprising answer is the Malaysian Islamofascist authorities. They have taken it upon themselves to be a nuisance by raiding restaurants and catching out Muslims who are not fasting. What if the person was a diabetic who needed a quick blood sugar spike? What if she was a woman who simply could not fast? Does she have to bring her menstrual pad to prove her case? This is the ridiculous level of thinking which we will be forced to take if we followed the logic of these authorities.
And then, of course ISMA had to show its own repressive policies. ISMA has never been sympathetic to women. Abdullah Zaik, after all, feels that women’s roles should be in the home. Having them in public spaces may arouse men and cause disharmony, he probably thinks.
In ISMA’s article against Maryam Lee, a slew of scholars were invoked to say that Muslim women who cannot fast should not consume in public because it may tempt Muslims. Not a single Quranic verse nor even a directly relevant hadith was quoted.
This shows the utter paucity of evidence from the Islamofascists. It is best they take leave during Ramadan and never leave their homes in case they get tempted. MAS workers who are prone to sleeping on the job, take note. You now have a “valid” excuse.
For the past three decades or so, Malay Muslims have been told by their Islamic priests how special they are and how the rest of the country needs to acquiesce and allow them to do as they please. Coupled with the influence of a corrupt government who gave them a sense of entitlement, the Malay Muslim is now acting with the maturity of a spoilt and petulant child.
Maryam Lee’s protest was indeed provocative but it is the first step towards waking them up. The counter-privileging against the conservative Malay-Muslims will hopefully show them that while we must respect their right to fast, they must equally respect our prerogative not to, if we choose to take it.
* This is the personal opinion of the columnist.
SORRY HARUSSANI, ISLAM IS NOT ABOUT EXCLUSIVITY
By AZRUL MOHD KHALIB
Published: March 5, 2016 07:32 AM GMT+8
- See more at: http://m.themalaymailonline.com/opinion/azrul-mohd-khalib/article/sorry-harussani-islam-is-not-about-exclusivity#sthash.XyJ3aEWX.dpuf
MARCH 5 — Warning: If this column starts to sound like you have read it before and you think that you are having a déjà vu moment, you are probably right. It sometimes feels like a broken record dealing with and responding to our recalcitrant and wayward religious authorities.
We have just been told that it is a crime to publish, and to read the Quran in non-Arabic languages without accompanying Arabic text.
Stop the press! All printing of the Quran in Chinese, Spanish, Afrikaans, Russian, Chechen, Indonesian and English around the world must cease! After all, if it is supposedly a wrong practise here, it must be wrong elsewhere too. After all, Islam is a global religion.
The recent warning from Harussani Zakaria, chairman of the Home Ministry’s Al-Quran Printing, Control and Licensing Board, is representative of what’s gone wrong with the practise and teaching of Islam in this country.
While Muslims in other countries are busy making their religion increasingly accessible, friendly and inclusive to those not of the Islamic faith, our religious authorities are moving in the exact opposite direction.
Far from sounding enlightened, progressive and welcoming, individuals such as Harussani are making Islam in Malaysia sound and appear to others as arrogant, irrational, suspicious and disdainful of other religions.
Maybe Harussani is more knowledgeable than I am in this matter, but I am almost certain that this kind of paternalistic approach is neither in accordance with the teachings of Prophet Muhammad nor adhering to the principles of Islam. But what do I know? I don’t write or understand Arabic so Harussani can perhaps provide some enlightenment.
I am tired of our religious authorities treating Islam like it is some exclusive club and they alone determine who gets to join and the conduct of those who are members. Historically, we have seen this behaviour before where the clergy of an institutionalised religion attempts to impose a monopoly on faith and its teachings under the guise of “only the learned and knowledgeable” (i.e themselves) can communicate with God and not be led astray.
The reality has less to do with God but more to do with the very earthly pursuit of power and control over others. Over the years, the ever-expanding sphere of influence of Islamic institutions in Malaysia have gone increasingly unchecked and it can be argued that through their actions, have repeatedly violated Constitutional limitations and even expressed disdain for those limits. Yet, very few have dared to challenge them and even fewer have stood to defend those who have done so. Just ask Rosli Dahlan.
I have travelled to many places in the world where Islam has taken root and flourished. Based on my own understanding, Islam is not and has never been about exclusivity and superiority of faith.
It is arguably a violation of Islamic teachings to insist on exclusivity as touted by Harussani as it prevents others from acquiring knowledge, learning and understanding Muslims and Islam.
The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) himself, through his own documented practises and teachings, practised inclusivity, humility, and believed in the importance of knowledge and most importantly, sharing it with others.
Exclusivity results in misunderstanding, ignorance, conflict, bigotry and irrational fear. It breeds contempt for others and arrogance.
One of the most common complaints and gripes by the Islamic authorities and clergy in this country is that they are frequently misunderstood and that others must seek understand and learn about Islam Fair argument, until you make important texts like the Quran inaccessible. Read the notice from the Kementerian Dalam Negeri again and you will realise that what it is actually saying is that reading the Quran is off limits to non-Muslims (need to take Islamic ritual ablutions to touch and read the Quran) and to those not proficient in the Arabic language.
Speaking of reading, I have struggled to explain to those who are non-Muslims how it is possible for a person to be able to read the Arabic in the Quran yet not understand a single word of it.
Because that is how the Quran is often taught (can a person be taught when the language of the lesson itself is not understood?) here in this country.
Harussani’s statement itself affirms that you can read without understanding and it is okay. I really don’t understand that and never have. Wouldn’t it be meaningless without understanding the words of what you are reading? Maybe it’s just me but that is my individual cross to bear.
Oh, final question for the mandarins of the Kementerian Dalam Negeri: is it also a crime to download digital versions of the Quran such as eBooks or apps in other languages? Are we allowed to think for ourselves or do we need to ask for your permission?
Those who demand for exclusivity and impose such restrictions and monopolies of knowledge convey a lack of depth in their awareness and understanding of how Islam is practised elsewhere around the globe and of its co-existence with other world religions.
Get a grip.
* This is the personal opinion of the columnist.
THE RISE OF RELIGIOUS BUFFOONERY IN MALAYSIA
By: Farouk A. Peru
Published: February 12, 2016 07:14 AM GMT+8-
See more at: http://m.themalaymailonline.com/opinion/farouk-a.-peru/article/the-rise-of-religious-buffoonery-in-malaysia#sthash.KNmOFUAa.dpuf
FEBRUARY 12 ― When any industry gets inundated with players, the quality of its products can be very questionable. It was true with the PC industry when IBM PC opened its doors to compatibles thus giving way to some very sub-par products.
It was also true in the movie industry when stellar movies inevitably inspired copycats. The Blair Witch Project and Sixth Sense were pioneers in this regard and inspired a number of inferior films.
This is also unfortunately true with the industry of religion. While there are some very inspiring speakers who can motivate the layperson to become a better human being, there are also those who tap into the religious market by providing sheer entertainment. They, perhaps unknowingly, act like buffoons in order to boost their popularity.
What makes a religious buffoon? While some may point to the speakers’ demeanour and style, I have to disagree.
Humour can actually make difficult subjects much easier to digest, in my experience. I have a vast collection of “Idiots Guides” and “For Dummies” books which attest to that fact!
No, rather buffoonery comes from the puerility of the subject matter and worse, the superficial manner in which it is handled.
Like any economic endeavour, the religious industry needs to keep coming up with fresh products to keep the target market interested else it becomes stale or irrelevant.
The inspiration for this piece came earlier this week in my Facebook feed which I use to observe the religious social media. I chanced upon a lecture by this ustaz (religious teacher) who claimed that the voices of women is considered “aurat” in Islam.
“Aurat” is an imported word from Arabic which means “modest or private area” in everyday lingo. The ustaz who seemed to be talking to an exclusively male audience, claimed that if a male were to engage in a telephone conversation with a woman ― however innocent the conversation may be ― that man would be sexually aroused.
He then asked a member of the audience if this was true and the answer came in the negative. Instead of accepting that different people have different levels of acceptable stimuli, the ustaz then accused that gentleman of having a low sex drive!
The next person the ustaz questioned hurriedly replied to the affirmative that indeed women’s voices can be seductive. The ustaz then added that not only are women’s voices arousing, they can actually cause a man to emit pre-ejaculate!
One wonders how this ustaz survives in daily life. When he goes to a restaurant and a waitress inquires about his order, would he then be in a state of arousal?
But it does not end there. The ustaz manages to surreptitiously add in some misogynistic elements to the seemingly receptive audience.
At that point, he adds that that is the reason we cannot have female leaders and khateebas (women who give sermons) unless the congregation is all female. The measure of a society’s backwardness is apparently when women take the helm of leadership, he asserts.
This is from the same individual who criticises women for shaping their eyebrows, claiming that it is physical modification! Comparing eyebrow shaping with plastic surgery must be the very definition of puerile and superficial.
The phenomenon of the religious buffoon is, in reality, an indictment on the society which produces it. Without the religious consumer, these people would need to find real jobs, perhaps in the entertainment industry given their talents to amuse listeners.
The only difference is the entertainment industry actually provides some benefit in that it gives us a means to relieve stress and to enjoy ourselves.
These religious buffoons, however, can actually cause damage with their sinister remarks. With the aforementioned ustaz for example, male members of his audience may actually force their beliefs on female members of their respective families.
This is when simple entertainment translates into social detriment. Malay-Muslims need to stay away from such folks.
*This is the personal opinion of the columnist.
buffoon (n): a clown, a jester, a fool, a ridiculous person.
buffoonery (n): a ridiculous behaviour which can be amusing.
When Everything Has To Be Monitored
This article pasted below is from The Star Online. My thoughts are in blue at the bottom.
Unmarried Muslim Couples On Motorbikes In Terengganu Should Behave
BY SHARANPAL SINGH RANDHAWA
The Star Online
Nation Home > News > Nation Wednesday, 18 January 2017 | MYT 3:34 PM
KUALA TERENGGANU: Unmarried Muslim couples should control their emotions and keep their hands to themselves while riding on motorcycles, said state Religious Affairs Department (JHEAT) Commissioner Datuk Wan Mohd Wan Ibrahim.
Wan Mohd added that such couples should also refrain from putting their hands into the pockets of their lover's jacket as such acts were against the teachings of Islam.
He said on Wednesday that a team of enforcement officers would be conducting "Ops Bonceng" to catch Muslim couples who are acting indecently on motorcycles.
Wan Mohd added that JHEAT will go all out to nab unmarried Muslim couples acting indecently, and said that indecent acts included hugging or leaning over with their hands in the jacket pockets of their lover.
"We have a team of enforcement officers who will be watching these couples from a distance and recording them before informing another team of officers who are at the roadblocks with Road Transport Department (JPJ) officers," said Wan Mohd.
He added that the team would operate without cameras at this time as only eyewitness testimony is sufficient proof in court, but said that cameras would be used as the recordings would then be used in court.
Wan Mohd said that no action would be taken on unmarried Muslim couples who were seated in a decent way on the motorcycle.
He however added that these couples would be advised to refrain from sitting closely as such an act could lead to acts such as sexual intercourse and having children out of wedlock.
"We will advise unmarried Muslim couples to not ride pillion as it doesn't portray a good image. That is our job and we are doing this because prevention is better than cure," said Wan Mohd.
He added that the same would be done for Muslim couples seated indecently in cars.
A Muslim person found to be acting indecently and inappropriately can be charged under Section 34 of the Syariah Criminal Offences (Ta'zir) (Terengganu) Enactment 2001.
Wan Mohd also reminded Muslim women in Terengganu to be more cautious about how they dressed, as Muslim women should not wear body-hugging and tight fitting jeans which show off parts of the body or the shape of their figure,
"We have given ample reminders, but we still find Muslim women disobeying the dress code under Section 35 of the same Enactment," said Wan Mohd.
Similar views were shared by JHEAT chief enforcement officer Nik Zulhaiza Ismail, who added that he had not been contacted by any online portals on the matter.
He said that reports which stated that all unmarried couples would be nabbed are incorrect.
Meanwhile state Communications, Multimedia & Special Duties Committee chairman Ghazali Taib said what the department plans to do is right and is within their jurisdiction.
"Such acts are against Islam and are an eyesore. Many were given advice so that they can realise their mistake," he said.
It totally and absolutely amazed me that JHEAT has the time and money to embark on this OPS BONCENG (sounds more like a police or a JPJ operation to me). But then, the various Jabatan Agama Islam in Malaysia has a total budget of almost RM1 billion this year, if I am not wrong. Of course they have the money. They have also become very powerful that they can even stop motorists and they can raid individual homes. May be later JPJ and the police too will come under these religious bodies, I won't be surprised.
If sex and unwanted pregnancy are the issues here, why not conduct a thorough research on why unwanted pregnancies happen to Muslim girls. The Jabatan Agama Islam with all the staffs and the huge budget, I am sure is capable of handling that. Have they ever done that? Go to the grass-root level of the problem and with the sincere intention of assisting and really finding out what are the actual causes of the problem. Is it Valentine Day celebration, is it New Year celebration, is it wearing lipstick, is it wearing high-heel shoes?
Lets look at the issue of unwanted pregnancies as a whole, since the religious bodies in Malaysia are very concerned about this. There are many causes. It may be sexual abuse or rape. Have the religious authorities ever try to find out about sexual abuse, rape or incest? May be drugs and alcohols are involved. Immature and irresponsible behaviours especially among teenagers may be the culprits too. It may be due to lack of knowledge and awareness. There is no provision of comprehensive information about sex. Many teens believe they will not get pregnant if they engage in sex. Many succumb to peer pressure and they have sex to appear cool and sophisticated. Even low self-esteem can be viewed as a risk factor for individuals to become involved in risky sexual behaviours which may lead to unwanted pregnancies.
Weak family relationships might also contribute to unwanted pregnancies especially in teens. Lack of discipline or lack of attention and affection might result in adolescents seeking love and support elsewhere, especially from members of the opposite sex. Dysfunctional childhood environment, poverty, lack of education can all be the contributing factors too. It is also important to note that, it is always the female that has to carry the stigma and the burden of unwanted pregnancies. It is always the girl's fault in the eyes of the religious people. It is girls with revealing clothes, with lipsticks, with high-heels, etc. What about the men or boys who impregnated these girls?
If the religious authorities have done their studies and have really found out that, oh yes, Valentine Day celebration, wearing lipstick, wearing high-heel shoes and unmarried couples misbehaving while riding their motorbikes would indeed lead to acts such as sexual intercourse and having children out of wedlock, well then, by all means the public will not object to them using tax-payers money for such action as OPS BONCENG. We definitely will have a higher respect for the religious institutions too.
But have the religious authorities ever conduct proper research on issues that seem to matter to them so very much? That seemed to make them flipped? Have their officials ever gone down to the poverty-stricken areas, to the lairs of the drug addicts or the prostitutes for example? No, it is usually the NGOs and private individuals that take up that challenge. With such a massive budget at hand, they should do that. Remember, not so long ago, it was alleged that thousands of young Muslims were converted into Christianity. Yet not e ven one study was done as to why did that happen? That is, if the allegation was indeed true. Weren't the religious authorities curious as to why droves of young Muslims converted to Christianity? Was it because the young Muslims were subjected to force? Was it black magic? Was it holy water? Were they given lots of money perhaps? Aren't they worried that the situation might be getting worse? Or are the religious authorities only keen in making themselves appear holier than thou? Making themselves appear like they are the defenders of the faith when the faith doesn't really need them. After some time, the furore died down and nothing comes out of it. Even the truthfulness of the allegation was not properly verified.
As an individual, one needs to be able to regulate oneself. For example, you can throw rubbish wherever you like. It is a bad thing and people will scold you if they see you do that (well, some people just couldn't care less because they also do that). You can still throw thrash around when no one is looking and nobody will reprimand you for it. But you know it is a bad thing. If you are a good person, you will not do it. Why? Because rubbish bins are provided. Because littering is unhealthy, unhygienic, and is an eyesore. It can also clog drains, causing mosquito breeding areas, causing malaria or dengue fever and even flooding for that matter. Members of society should be educated as to why they should not litter. They should learn that in the end littering is bad for everyone and they should not do it even if no one is looking, or no public officials or security guards or CCTVs are around. They should adopt the habit, that, even if there are no rubbish bins around they will keep their trash in their pockets or handbags or whatever, until they find one. They should be responsible for themselves without having to be monitored all the time. The function of public officials here is more providing the thrash bins, managing the thrash, creating awareness and educating members of society. However if authorities choose to ensure that people do not litter by employing "thrash police" or installing CCTVs, attitudes will not change and more and more police have to be recruited or more and more CCTVs have to be installed to deal with every aspect of behaviour. Even the enforcement of monetary fines will not really change attitudes. We can clearly see that in road accidents cases.
It would be a very repressive society if everything has to be policed by the authorities especially things pertaining to private lives. So, married couples in Terengganu, carry your marriage card always if you ride motorbikes. Do not behave indecently (whatever that means) because then you will be stopped by JPJ and the religious dudes. They will have to let you go then ha ha ha. What if married couples riding motorbike and behaving indecently? Ha ha ha ...... some people are affectionate and expressive, but, so what, they are husband and wife! Definitely the loving couple will be stopped by the dudes, then the dudes will have to let them go. The dudes will look like idiots. What a waste of time!
I really wonder what is meant by "not sitting closely, keeping your hands to yourself" when you are a pillion rider on the motorbike. I also do not see at all, why this OPS BONCENG has anything to do with non-Muslims (look at paragraph below). Is it necessary for the whole world to follow our rules? Because we cannot do something, the whole universe too have to abstain from doing it, in case we get tempted? Is our akidah so very very filmsy and fragile?
Wan Mohd added that JHEAT will go all out to nab unmarried Muslim couples acting indecently, and said that indecent acts included hugging or leaning over with their hands in the jacket pockets of their lover.
Unmarried Muslim Couples On Motorbikes In Terengganu Should Behave
BY SHARANPAL SINGH RANDHAWA
The Star Online
Nation Home > News > Nation Wednesday, 18 January 2017 | MYT 3:34 PM
KUALA TERENGGANU: Unmarried Muslim couples should control their emotions and keep their hands to themselves while riding on motorcycles, said state Religious Affairs Department (JHEAT) Commissioner Datuk Wan Mohd Wan Ibrahim.
Wan Mohd added that such couples should also refrain from putting their hands into the pockets of their lover's jacket as such acts were against the teachings of Islam.
He said on Wednesday that a team of enforcement officers would be conducting "Ops Bonceng" to catch Muslim couples who are acting indecently on motorcycles.
Wan Mohd added that JHEAT will go all out to nab unmarried Muslim couples acting indecently, and said that indecent acts included hugging or leaning over with their hands in the jacket pockets of their lover.
"We have a team of enforcement officers who will be watching these couples from a distance and recording them before informing another team of officers who are at the roadblocks with Road Transport Department (JPJ) officers," said Wan Mohd.
He added that the team would operate without cameras at this time as only eyewitness testimony is sufficient proof in court, but said that cameras would be used as the recordings would then be used in court.
Wan Mohd said that no action would be taken on unmarried Muslim couples who were seated in a decent way on the motorcycle.
He however added that these couples would be advised to refrain from sitting closely as such an act could lead to acts such as sexual intercourse and having children out of wedlock.
"We will advise unmarried Muslim couples to not ride pillion as it doesn't portray a good image. That is our job and we are doing this because prevention is better than cure," said Wan Mohd.
He added that the same would be done for Muslim couples seated indecently in cars.
A Muslim person found to be acting indecently and inappropriately can be charged under Section 34 of the Syariah Criminal Offences (Ta'zir) (Terengganu) Enactment 2001.
Wan Mohd also reminded Muslim women in Terengganu to be more cautious about how they dressed, as Muslim women should not wear body-hugging and tight fitting jeans which show off parts of the body or the shape of their figure,
"We have given ample reminders, but we still find Muslim women disobeying the dress code under Section 35 of the same Enactment," said Wan Mohd.
Similar views were shared by JHEAT chief enforcement officer Nik Zulhaiza Ismail, who added that he had not been contacted by any online portals on the matter.
He said that reports which stated that all unmarried couples would be nabbed are incorrect.
Meanwhile state Communications, Multimedia & Special Duties Committee chairman Ghazali Taib said what the department plans to do is right and is within their jurisdiction.
"Such acts are against Islam and are an eyesore. Many were given advice so that they can realise their mistake," he said.
It totally and absolutely amazed me that JHEAT has the time and money to embark on this OPS BONCENG (sounds more like a police or a JPJ operation to me). But then, the various Jabatan Agama Islam in Malaysia has a total budget of almost RM1 billion this year, if I am not wrong. Of course they have the money. They have also become very powerful that they can even stop motorists and they can raid individual homes. May be later JPJ and the police too will come under these religious bodies, I won't be surprised.
If sex and unwanted pregnancy are the issues here, why not conduct a thorough research on why unwanted pregnancies happen to Muslim girls. The Jabatan Agama Islam with all the staffs and the huge budget, I am sure is capable of handling that. Have they ever done that? Go to the grass-root level of the problem and with the sincere intention of assisting and really finding out what are the actual causes of the problem. Is it Valentine Day celebration, is it New Year celebration, is it wearing lipstick, is it wearing high-heel shoes?
Lets look at the issue of unwanted pregnancies as a whole, since the religious bodies in Malaysia are very concerned about this. There are many causes. It may be sexual abuse or rape. Have the religious authorities ever try to find out about sexual abuse, rape or incest? May be drugs and alcohols are involved. Immature and irresponsible behaviours especially among teenagers may be the culprits too. It may be due to lack of knowledge and awareness. There is no provision of comprehensive information about sex. Many teens believe they will not get pregnant if they engage in sex. Many succumb to peer pressure and they have sex to appear cool and sophisticated. Even low self-esteem can be viewed as a risk factor for individuals to become involved in risky sexual behaviours which may lead to unwanted pregnancies.
Weak family relationships might also contribute to unwanted pregnancies especially in teens. Lack of discipline or lack of attention and affection might result in adolescents seeking love and support elsewhere, especially from members of the opposite sex. Dysfunctional childhood environment, poverty, lack of education can all be the contributing factors too. It is also important to note that, it is always the female that has to carry the stigma and the burden of unwanted pregnancies. It is always the girl's fault in the eyes of the religious people. It is girls with revealing clothes, with lipsticks, with high-heels, etc. What about the men or boys who impregnated these girls?
If the religious authorities have done their studies and have really found out that, oh yes, Valentine Day celebration, wearing lipstick, wearing high-heel shoes and unmarried couples misbehaving while riding their motorbikes would indeed lead to acts such as sexual intercourse and having children out of wedlock, well then, by all means the public will not object to them using tax-payers money for such action as OPS BONCENG. We definitely will have a higher respect for the religious institutions too.
But have the religious authorities ever conduct proper research on issues that seem to matter to them so very much? That seemed to make them flipped? Have their officials ever gone down to the poverty-stricken areas, to the lairs of the drug addicts or the prostitutes for example? No, it is usually the NGOs and private individuals that take up that challenge. With such a massive budget at hand, they should do that. Remember, not so long ago, it was alleged that thousands of young Muslims were converted into Christianity. Yet not e ven one study was done as to why did that happen? That is, if the allegation was indeed true. Weren't the religious authorities curious as to why droves of young Muslims converted to Christianity? Was it because the young Muslims were subjected to force? Was it black magic? Was it holy water? Were they given lots of money perhaps? Aren't they worried that the situation might be getting worse? Or are the religious authorities only keen in making themselves appear holier than thou? Making themselves appear like they are the defenders of the faith when the faith doesn't really need them. After some time, the furore died down and nothing comes out of it. Even the truthfulness of the allegation was not properly verified.
As an individual, one needs to be able to regulate oneself. For example, you can throw rubbish wherever you like. It is a bad thing and people will scold you if they see you do that (well, some people just couldn't care less because they also do that). You can still throw thrash around when no one is looking and nobody will reprimand you for it. But you know it is a bad thing. If you are a good person, you will not do it. Why? Because rubbish bins are provided. Because littering is unhealthy, unhygienic, and is an eyesore. It can also clog drains, causing mosquito breeding areas, causing malaria or dengue fever and even flooding for that matter. Members of society should be educated as to why they should not litter. They should learn that in the end littering is bad for everyone and they should not do it even if no one is looking, or no public officials or security guards or CCTVs are around. They should adopt the habit, that, even if there are no rubbish bins around they will keep their trash in their pockets or handbags or whatever, until they find one. They should be responsible for themselves without having to be monitored all the time. The function of public officials here is more providing the thrash bins, managing the thrash, creating awareness and educating members of society. However if authorities choose to ensure that people do not litter by employing "thrash police" or installing CCTVs, attitudes will not change and more and more police have to be recruited or more and more CCTVs have to be installed to deal with every aspect of behaviour. Even the enforcement of monetary fines will not really change attitudes. We can clearly see that in road accidents cases.
It would be a very repressive society if everything has to be policed by the authorities especially things pertaining to private lives. So, married couples in Terengganu, carry your marriage card always if you ride motorbikes. Do not behave indecently (whatever that means) because then you will be stopped by JPJ and the religious dudes. They will have to let you go then ha ha ha. What if married couples riding motorbike and behaving indecently? Ha ha ha ...... some people are affectionate and expressive, but, so what, they are husband and wife! Definitely the loving couple will be stopped by the dudes, then the dudes will have to let them go. The dudes will look like idiots. What a waste of time!
I really wonder what is meant by "not sitting closely, keeping your hands to yourself" when you are a pillion rider on the motorbike. I also do not see at all, why this OPS BONCENG has anything to do with non-Muslims (look at paragraph below). Is it necessary for the whole world to follow our rules? Because we cannot do something, the whole universe too have to abstain from doing it, in case we get tempted? Is our akidah so very very filmsy and fragile?
Wan Mohd added that JHEAT will go all out to nab unmarried Muslim couples acting indecently, and said that indecent acts included hugging or leaning over with their hands in the jacket pockets of their lover.
Monday, 19 December 2016
Letter To My Niece
Dearest Kin,
Now that you are married, my greatest wish for you is that you will be peaceful and happy in your married life. May you and Khairi be loving enough, wise enough, strong enough and patient enough with yourself and with each other in continuing your journey together as husband and wife. Your Wan Nyah is not married and probably do not know much about married life. However I have observed my few close friends' marriages long enough to notice that there are always challenges that need to be addressed. That is life. Being single too has its own set of challenges.
Do not be afraid about facing difficulties, should you have them. As long as you are determined to move forward there will be ways and means of overcoming them. You are a strong, smart, well educated lady. I am sure you will be resourceful and creative in facing them. You come from a strong, close-knit family. That is one plus point for you. I am very glad that your dad is doing well in his career and is able to give you and your siblings a much more stable family life financially. That is another plus point.
I am so glad too that many of my nephews and nieces have turned out great. No, not because you have a great job or because you were brilliant in your studies. I am proud of those too, of course. Academic excellence will definitely help you find your footings in life later on. You and some of your cousins have done very well in your studies, much better than me or my siblings. But what is more important to me is what you all do with your lives, how you handle your adversities, your tenacity to carry on and to persevere, your attitude, your outlook on life, you aspirations and your efforts and determination to better yourselves.
Among my nephews and nieces, probably your Uncle Atan, you, your Along and your cousin Usop are closest to me. The others, I do not have the opportunity to know better. Probably to some of my 23 nephews and nieces, I am a weird auntie. I was not brought up by your Tok and your Atah. I seldom saw all of you before and when I did come and visit I was reserved and even aloof. My years with my adopted mother has left me with a lot baggages. Numerous issues used to depress me and there were times I felt like I was a shell, a hollow being with no insides whatsoever, staggering around trying to decipher who I was, while feeling very isolated from my biological family.
Things are much better for me nowadays. Though in reality I am still struggling to regain my self esteem, I do accept myself better and I am able to savour some feelings of warmth and affection in my association with my nephews and nieces, especially the four of you mentioned above. Something that I find difficult to do with my siblings, which are your dad and your uncles. Inside of me, there is always this doubt, fear and embarrassment that may be my siblings don't like me because of my adopted mother quarrelsome personality. I even think that they might even despise me. That was part of my baggage.
Take good care of yourself and accept yourself completely and unconditionally. The introvert personality tend to rear its unique head here and there in our family. To me being an introvert has some very attractive traits even if we can easily be misunderstood by others. Realise that you have weaknesses but then you have strengths too. You in particular have quite a lot of strengths, I have noticed, one of which is that you are very independent. Something that can be very crucial when you are facing life stresses. Always be curious about the world around you. Take time to ponder about things. We live in a country in which the politicians and the clergies are increasingly demanding that the ordinary people just swallow whatever that are being pushed into our mouths without thinking. Read widely and expand your horizon. A person who reads a lot will not be easily swayed by others. Remember that, it is okay to be different.
So Selamat Pengantin Baru, Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and all the very best to you and Khairi. Love you.
Affectionately,
Wan Nyah
Now that you are married, my greatest wish for you is that you will be peaceful and happy in your married life. May you and Khairi be loving enough, wise enough, strong enough and patient enough with yourself and with each other in continuing your journey together as husband and wife. Your Wan Nyah is not married and probably do not know much about married life. However I have observed my few close friends' marriages long enough to notice that there are always challenges that need to be addressed. That is life. Being single too has its own set of challenges.
Do not be afraid about facing difficulties, should you have them. As long as you are determined to move forward there will be ways and means of overcoming them. You are a strong, smart, well educated lady. I am sure you will be resourceful and creative in facing them. You come from a strong, close-knit family. That is one plus point for you. I am very glad that your dad is doing well in his career and is able to give you and your siblings a much more stable family life financially. That is another plus point.
I am so glad too that many of my nephews and nieces have turned out great. No, not because you have a great job or because you were brilliant in your studies. I am proud of those too, of course. Academic excellence will definitely help you find your footings in life later on. You and some of your cousins have done very well in your studies, much better than me or my siblings. But what is more important to me is what you all do with your lives, how you handle your adversities, your tenacity to carry on and to persevere, your attitude, your outlook on life, you aspirations and your efforts and determination to better yourselves.
Among my nephews and nieces, probably your Uncle Atan, you, your Along and your cousin Usop are closest to me. The others, I do not have the opportunity to know better. Probably to some of my 23 nephews and nieces, I am a weird auntie. I was not brought up by your Tok and your Atah. I seldom saw all of you before and when I did come and visit I was reserved and even aloof. My years with my adopted mother has left me with a lot baggages. Numerous issues used to depress me and there were times I felt like I was a shell, a hollow being with no insides whatsoever, staggering around trying to decipher who I was, while feeling very isolated from my biological family.
Things are much better for me nowadays. Though in reality I am still struggling to regain my self esteem, I do accept myself better and I am able to savour some feelings of warmth and affection in my association with my nephews and nieces, especially the four of you mentioned above. Something that I find difficult to do with my siblings, which are your dad and your uncles. Inside of me, there is always this doubt, fear and embarrassment that may be my siblings don't like me because of my adopted mother quarrelsome personality. I even think that they might even despise me. That was part of my baggage.
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| The gang at the bridegroom's reception in Pokok Sena, Kedah on Dec 11, 2016 |
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| The couple with the bride's parents. Pokok Sena, Dec 11, 2016. |
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| From left: Yong, who is Kin's aunt on her mum side, Wan Nyah, Khairi, Kin, Kin's mum and Kin's dad. The little girl is Kin's niece Zara Azalea. Pokok Sena Dec 11, 2016 |
Take good care of yourself and accept yourself completely and unconditionally. The introvert personality tend to rear its unique head here and there in our family. To me being an introvert has some very attractive traits even if we can easily be misunderstood by others. Realise that you have weaknesses but then you have strengths too. You in particular have quite a lot of strengths, I have noticed, one of which is that you are very independent. Something that can be very crucial when you are facing life stresses. Always be curious about the world around you. Take time to ponder about things. We live in a country in which the politicians and the clergies are increasingly demanding that the ordinary people just swallow whatever that are being pushed into our mouths without thinking. Read widely and expand your horizon. A person who reads a lot will not be easily swayed by others. Remember that, it is okay to be different.
So Selamat Pengantin Baru, Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and all the very best to you and Khairi. Love you.
Affectionately,
Wan Nyah
Saturday, 17 December 2016
Riding The New Train Route
The much anticipated Sg. Buloh-Kajang MRT (also referred to as MRT1) started its Phase 1 operation yesterday, Dec. 16th. It consisted of 12 stations starting at Sg. Buloh and ending in Semantan. The stations are Sungai Buloh, Kampong Selamat, Kwasa Damansara, Kwasa Sentral, Kota Damansara, Surian, Mutiara Damansara, Bandar Utama, TTDI, Phileo Damansara, Pusat Bandar Damansara and Semantan. Let's hope this new transportation network can help alleviate the severe traffic congestion in the city and ordinary people can have another option to travel around Klang Valley, besides driving on their own. May be they can park their vehicles somewhere and ride the train partially on their way, to and from work. For five years I drove to work and I very much understand the stress and hassle of driving on some of Klang Valley roads. I think we have good roads but we have too many cars because the poor transportation system forces people to drive their cars. After the five years, I drove from home to the commuter train station, parked my car there and took the train to Shah Alam. I was lucky that my work place was in front of the Shah Alam commuter station, thanks to CIAST's early planners wise choice of location. The commuter train service was terrible during the period 3 or 4 years before I retired but is improving now.
I had wanted to go to One Utama shopping centre and I thought I should try the new train. Parked my car at Port Klang Commuter Station and took the the commuter train to Subang Jaya. The interchange station between KTM Commuter Pelabuhan Kelang Line with the new MRT is only Sg. Buloh for the time being. That is too far away. For information, an interchange station is one where passengers do not need to exit the station building, in order to switch lines. As commonly is the case, we need to to change for one line to another to effectively use the system. At Subang Jaya I changed to LRT Kelana Jaya Line heading towards Gombak and I got down 3 stations away at Lembah Subang station. From there, there is a feeder bus that will get you to Surian station on the Sg. Buloh-Kajang MRT. For one month, from Dec. 16th, the MRT and the feeder bus rides are free.
From Surian I rode the train to Bandar Utama, two stations away. There are feeder buses here too, to take you to One Utama. It is within walking distance actually. However, the road is busy with all manner of construction and it was a hot day so I took the feeder bus.
Since the ride is free, I took the MRT from Bandar Utama to Sg. Buloh on the way back. Scenic journey with urban landscape of PJ to industrial estate and rubber plantation near Sg. Buloh station.
From my experience, the LRTs are quite good in being punctual and having good frequency of service. Let's hope the MRT is also equally punctual and having good frequency as it is from the same company. KTM Commuter on the other hand still has lots and lots of room for improvement.
One thing I forgot to do while taking the ride is to note the ticket price. I still think it is still not quite convenient for me to go to One Utama taking the trains because I still need to take the feeder bus between Lembah Subang and Surian. Buses are notorious for being stuck in traffic jams. The route taken by the feeder bus goes around the busy parts of PJ and Damansara. It would be difficult to maintain punctuality when you are at the mercy of the road traffics. Once the interchange station Pasar Seni is completed then it would be a much better option for me.
The last image below is not of the MRT, but of the KTM commuter train, which I took from Sg. Buloh to Pelabuhan Kelang yesterday evening.
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| Most of the online maps are of poor resolutions, so I snapped the image of the physical map distributed by RapidKL staffs. |
I had wanted to go to One Utama shopping centre and I thought I should try the new train. Parked my car at Port Klang Commuter Station and took the the commuter train to Subang Jaya. The interchange station between KTM Commuter Pelabuhan Kelang Line with the new MRT is only Sg. Buloh for the time being. That is too far away. For information, an interchange station is one where passengers do not need to exit the station building, in order to switch lines. As commonly is the case, we need to to change for one line to another to effectively use the system. At Subang Jaya I changed to LRT Kelana Jaya Line heading towards Gombak and I got down 3 stations away at Lembah Subang station. From there, there is a feeder bus that will get you to Surian station on the Sg. Buloh-Kajang MRT. For one month, from Dec. 16th, the MRT and the feeder bus rides are free.
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| Spanking new, clean, bright SURIAN station |
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| Inside the new 4-coach train |
From Surian I rode the train to Bandar Utama, two stations away. There are feeder buses here too, to take you to One Utama. It is within walking distance actually. However, the road is busy with all manner of construction and it was a hot day so I took the feeder bus.
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| Festive air in One Utama, and bright-coloured deco. A bit too garish for me. |
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| Modest deco here |
Since the ride is free, I took the MRT from Bandar Utama to Sg. Buloh on the way back. Scenic journey with urban landscape of PJ to industrial estate and rubber plantation near Sg. Buloh station.
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| Immediately after Bandar Utama station |
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| Financial, commercial district of PJ/Damansara |
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| City dwellings around Damanasara |
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| Another view from inside the MRT |
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| Another view from inside the MRT |
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| Rubber plantation near Sg. Buloh station |
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| Wan Nyah inside the MRT going towards Sg. Buloh |
From my experience, the LRTs are quite good in being punctual and having good frequency of service. Let's hope the MRT is also equally punctual and having good frequency as it is from the same company. KTM Commuter on the other hand still has lots and lots of room for improvement.
One thing I forgot to do while taking the ride is to note the ticket price. I still think it is still not quite convenient for me to go to One Utama taking the trains because I still need to take the feeder bus between Lembah Subang and Surian. Buses are notorious for being stuck in traffic jams. The route taken by the feeder bus goes around the busy parts of PJ and Damansara. It would be difficult to maintain punctuality when you are at the mercy of the road traffics. Once the interchange station Pasar Seni is completed then it would be a much better option for me.
The last image below is not of the MRT, but of the KTM commuter train, which I took from Sg. Buloh to Pelabuhan Kelang yesterday evening.
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| View from the cracked window glass of the KTM train. It is quite common to find such windows on KTM commuter trains. |
Friday, 9 December 2016
Getting A Cat Into The Carrier
On Saturday I will be travelling back to KK for my niece Syikin send-off to the bridegroom's side in Kedah. Since Monday and Tuesday will be public holidays for Selangor, I have already booked places for boarding for my furry kids at my regular vet.
Sending them for boarding is always a sentimental issue for me. A lot of the time, I would be crying, even if I would leave them there for only four or five days and this event is repeated many times in a year. I am just a weeper or a crybaby where my pets are concerned. In fact where animal welfare is concerned actually. I would have preferred to leave them at home and for someone to come and top-up the kibbles and change the water bowl. But people that I can rely on, stay far away from my place and I do not want to burden them with travelling so far to do that. If my neighbours are pet-friendly people then I would have just leave them at home with plenty of kibbles and plain water provided. They would have stale kibbles after a few days, but they will not be stressed out having to be caged at the boarding place. However some neighbours dislike cats and have already voiced out their displeasure at my Mickey sometimes jumping onto the top of their car or spraying onto the car tyres. I have already apologised to them about that. I tried to put myself in the shoe of a person who doesn't like cats and I have to agree may be I would get irritated too in such instances. Since then I feel uneasy about leaving my cats at home when I am not there, unless otherwise, I really can't help it.
Cats are smart animals. They study you and your routines with them. They sense your vibrations acutely. Calling to them too often before catching them would make them suspicious as you don't normally do that. Closing doors and all outlets suddenly too would easily make them bolted to the end of the block. Offering food too many times in a short period of time and they just walk off. Once I tried to catch Tam and somehow she slipped from my grip and sprinted away. Mickey and Comot got the hint and they both ran away too. For about 2-3 hours after that all three of them stayed away from the house. Watching from a distance, alert and ready to bolt in case Wan Nyah tries again. So today, Wan Nyah must act very normal. Not to pay any special attention, not to call them too often, not to offer treats at unusual time and not to overdo the cuddling.
Sending them for boarding is always a sentimental issue for me. A lot of the time, I would be crying, even if I would leave them there for only four or five days and this event is repeated many times in a year. I am just a weeper or a crybaby where my pets are concerned. In fact where animal welfare is concerned actually. I would have preferred to leave them at home and for someone to come and top-up the kibbles and change the water bowl. But people that I can rely on, stay far away from my place and I do not want to burden them with travelling so far to do that. If my neighbours are pet-friendly people then I would have just leave them at home with plenty of kibbles and plain water provided. They would have stale kibbles after a few days, but they will not be stressed out having to be caged at the boarding place. However some neighbours dislike cats and have already voiced out their displeasure at my Mickey sometimes jumping onto the top of their car or spraying onto the car tyres. I have already apologised to them about that. I tried to put myself in the shoe of a person who doesn't like cats and I have to agree may be I would get irritated too in such instances. Since then I feel uneasy about leaving my cats at home when I am not there, unless otherwise, I really can't help it.
Cats are smart animals. They study you and your routines with them. They sense your vibrations acutely. Calling to them too often before catching them would make them suspicious as you don't normally do that. Closing doors and all outlets suddenly too would easily make them bolted to the end of the block. Offering food too many times in a short period of time and they just walk off. Once I tried to catch Tam and somehow she slipped from my grip and sprinted away. Mickey and Comot got the hint and they both ran away too. For about 2-3 hours after that all three of them stayed away from the house. Watching from a distance, alert and ready to bolt in case Wan Nyah tries again. So today, Wan Nyah must act very normal. Not to pay any special attention, not to call them too often, not to offer treats at unusual time and not to overdo the cuddling.
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| Carriers for the two girls are out |
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| The big boy watching Wan Nyah taking out the carriers with suspicion |
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| She is watching too |
Thursday, 8 December 2016
In 2016
2016 will be leaving us very soon. Many things happen in 2016. On a personal level, 2016 is the year I lost my dad. It was a little unexpected for me and my siblings. We were greatly expecting he would pull through the pneumonia attack. But dad lost the battle after about a week in hospital. Before that, in the middle of 2016, my nephew Along fell sick with some ailment. He lost so much weight that we were really worried about him. Luckily he is very much better now. He beat the infection quite fast and we were very very thankful about that. On another happy note, my niece Syikin got married this year. My niece Diana has a son and her brother Dasila has a second child a few months ago. All together I have 13 grandchildren. I am an Atah Nyah thirteen times over now.
As citizens of this beautiful piece of land jutting out into the Malacca Straits and the South China Sea, we witness a lot of things happening in 2016. From things which are good and amazing, to things which are unbelievable, absurd, bizarre, and downright to things which are disgraceful, humiliating and causing extreme embarrassment.
A lot of people are losing their jobs in 2016. A few are people close to me as well. One nephew is unemployed since 2014 and is doing odd jobs here and there to support himself and his wife. I lost quite a number of classmates in my French class. A few were expatriates who lost their jobs in the oil and gas sector and have to return to their home countries. Other classmates simply stopped because of the financial constraint, The course fee is not really that much. However, when all things considered, people just couldn't afford some things, when their regular income is halved because another family member is unemployed or because the only breadwinner in the family is being retrenched.
The ringgit slid past 4.0 to the US dollar on Wednesday, Aug 12, 2016 for the first time in 17 years. As of today, Dec 8, 2016, 1USD equals RM4.43. There were and are still huge concerns over economic growth and political uncertainty stemming from a government financial scandal. The country's economy has been dogged for months by concerns that slumping oil prices will harm growth as an oil-exporting nation. According to one economist "Malaysia's vulnerability is heightened by deteriorating terms of trade, high debt, and a fragile fiscal position highly dependent on oil-related revenue," I do not know much about economy but that quote is definitely worrying to me. The carefree feeling of yesteryears is gone I think. Previously, there was confidence that as long as you were prepared to work hard, there would always be jobs for you in Malaysia and you would be able to survive. Four or five years before I retired, I was quite confident I could find some part-time jobs easily. Nowadays, even if there are openings for me, I do not have the heart to take it, as I know there are more deserving candidates.
Call me a pessimistic or a cynic, I am welcoming 2017 with a lot of dread and apprehension.
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| My nephew Along. The canine is Lela, who was rescued from an old lady who couldn't afford to keep her. Lela is one of the four guard dogs at the chicken farm. She is about a year old, very adorable and very much loved by the family. |
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| Kin's wedding souvenir |
A lot of people are losing their jobs in 2016. A few are people close to me as well. One nephew is unemployed since 2014 and is doing odd jobs here and there to support himself and his wife. I lost quite a number of classmates in my French class. A few were expatriates who lost their jobs in the oil and gas sector and have to return to their home countries. Other classmates simply stopped because of the financial constraint, The course fee is not really that much. However, when all things considered, people just couldn't afford some things, when their regular income is halved because another family member is unemployed or because the only breadwinner in the family is being retrenched.
The ringgit slid past 4.0 to the US dollar on Wednesday, Aug 12, 2016 for the first time in 17 years. As of today, Dec 8, 2016, 1USD equals RM4.43. There were and are still huge concerns over economic growth and political uncertainty stemming from a government financial scandal. The country's economy has been dogged for months by concerns that slumping oil prices will harm growth as an oil-exporting nation. According to one economist "Malaysia's vulnerability is heightened by deteriorating terms of trade, high debt, and a fragile fiscal position highly dependent on oil-related revenue," I do not know much about economy but that quote is definitely worrying to me. The carefree feeling of yesteryears is gone I think. Previously, there was confidence that as long as you were prepared to work hard, there would always be jobs for you in Malaysia and you would be able to survive. Four or five years before I retired, I was quite confident I could find some part-time jobs easily. Nowadays, even if there are openings for me, I do not have the heart to take it, as I know there are more deserving candidates.
Call me a pessimistic or a cynic, I am welcoming 2017 with a lot of dread and apprehension.
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